Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take,
but by the moments that take your breath away.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

The First Kiss

There are many benefits to international adoption but one of the harder parts of it is that your baby is older when you bring them home. In our case, we missed Aaden crawling, his first steps, his first smile, his first laugh, and so many other things.

When we first visited him in March. I tried to have the teddy bear I brought him give him a kiss. He looked at it kind of funny and then tried to bite it's nose off. I asked our translator what the word was for kiss in Russian so he would understand what I was doing and she just looked at me like she didn't want to be the bearer of bad news and then said quietly, "It doesn't matter, he doesn't know what kiss means. No one has taught him."

This is something I thought about constantly for those 2 months while we waited to go back for our court hearing. No one had ever kissed or hugged my little boy. So you can imagine that since we've had Aaden with us Michael and I have kissed and hugged him at every chance we get trying to make up for this. But I'm not sure he ever really got waht we were doing.

Well, this past week, I not only kissed Aaden, but I got a kiss back! His first kiss. It took 7 weeks of persistance but he finally understands what kiss means. I can now say kiss and he pushes his little face out and touches his lips to me and then smiles. He doesn't quite understand to pucker his lips yet but he is getting there. It melts my heart every time he does it. He's still a very active and not very cuddly little guy but I am learning to cherish these little "kiss" moments with him and they are worth everything.

4 comments:

Melissa said...

Aww

Anonymous said...

Well to be a mother, is something in itself, but to be a mother and a teacher, is the most rewarding of all, you have taugh him his first real emotion, to kiss his mom and dad, how wonderful.
Love,
Aunt Kathy

Christine and Stephen said...

Lori:

That was such a special moment - your first kiss!!! Thank you for continuing to share your journey with Aaden.

Christine

Our Family said...

What an amazing first! I hope that there are many more wonderful firsts yet to come!
Adrian